Wednesday, 29 January 2014

dare

blue-floral-dress-mirror c Isn't it funny how something someone says can stick in your head? A year ago – or longer? – I was chatting with someone about blogs. Her thoughts were along the lines of ugh, those girls, they think they're so pretty, posing and pouting, and they're not. They're not even pretty! And I couldn't disagree more. One of my favourite thing about blogging is being an everyday woman who likes to wear old, wash-till-they're-soft dresses and not caring if it's the latest thing. I love our blogs, where we post pictures of ourselves, sharing the styles that we love, and that we dare to be different. I LOVE our different faces and hairstyles and our personalities and our decisions and hopes and dreams and laughs. Why should any of these things be only for whoever is currently considered something as dull and unimportant as acceptably pretty? We're alive and it's wonderful.

57 comments:

beate grigutsch said...

amen!
you and the other blogging girls gave me sooo much.......

Musing on Beauty said...

Well said. AND you are gorgeous, always.

funwithvintage said...

I so agree. Several years ago I suffered from an eating disorder and low self-worth and I was so judgmental of my own appearance - and everyone else's. Now, after several years of working on myself, I love seeing the beauty in everyone. I love to see people expressing their personal style and feeling good about themselves. And why not? We're all living the only life we're ever going to get so we might as well treasure who we are.

Fashionista said...

Clap clap clap clap clap! Well said!

geehawkes said...

I couldn't agree with this more! I love so many blogs because everyone is different, the world would be extremely uninteresting if we all aspired to be the same xx
fiveonecouture.blogspot.co.uk

Lucy In The Sky said...

I couldn't agree with you more! No, we are not famous supermodels or actresses showcased on television all the time. Yes, we wear what we choose to wear and are not restricted to fickle trends. Yes, our faces and bodies and lifestyles are different. But we are real woman. We are real people and I think that will always be more beautiful than this eternally changing and mere concept of what it is to be acceptably 'pretty'.

Porcelina said...

Hear hear! So only pretty people can pose?! If we're not considered pretty, are we meant to hang our heads in shame and hide ourselves away?

I guess we all have times where we don't think before we speak.

P x

Polly said...

Beauty comes in many different forms, not just the conventional kind. Bloggers have actually helped me realise this and be more accepting of myself. I think they are very important! A more realistic, home-grown form of media to balance out all the magazines.

Laurence said...

Well said!!!!

A red lip and a nude shoe said...

Exactly, thank you!

doris sander said...

amen, sister! :)

let us wanderlust said...

I couldn't agree more!! Let us be whoever we want to be, always and forever! Our blogs help us to celebrate this and we encourage and support each other! So eloquently written Marianne xxx Carly

Ladanu Ladan said...

Mmm, a little education about blogging needed> it's NOT just about pictures and it's not about pretty. I actually read blogs and enjoy that aspect the most and I head toward bloggers who have a certain attitude. Ideas and passion, that's all it's about for me.

Rose-et-Violet said...

I agree with you 100%. No one has a right to comment on what we want to do with ourselves...and that comment on girls pouting and posing -- who cares? Celebrating one's self, especially as a girl or woman, is so important! This world tears us down way too much to have other girls add to it...I love what we do as bloggers too. Everyone's different, and appreciating the difference is what life is all about.

Great post, and you look amazing.

-Rose

rose-et-violet.blogspot.com

Emma Cherry said...

Couldn't agree more Marianne.....

God forbid we should walk alone than follow the pack. I mean, I like fashion (obviously)....but I get bored if there isn't something quirky about the blog or the blogger - just me, I guess!

I love to pose (Wow, I actually just wrote that out loud!)in outfits and feel confident enough in myself to try out new ideas in front of my lovely readers.....
....and personally 'commercially' pretty girls do not hold my attention when it comes to blog world :)

Love this post.....

Emma
(Dear Thirty)

Amber said...

I am always struck by how beautiful so many fashion/ beauty bloggers are. But I also appreciate that they are pretty in a way that "normal" people are. I actually find it more meaningful to say that these people are pretty because I know they don't have personal trainers, private chefs, stylists, personal assistants and airbrushing to build up their beauty into something completely unattainable.

Glazed Over said...

Amen! Lovely, uplifting blog post! Cheers!

xo Glazed Over

Batzy RockShop said...

I love this post. Just yesterday I was on Twitter saying to a friend that the blogs I used to truly love are now more about sponsors and things that sell...and they're great for a lot of readers but I can't "connect" with that.
I love what you are sharing here, THAT is what I'm looking for in a blog, seeing different personalities,finding other talented ladies that share what they can do, what they like and their journeys.

victoria

Amber Jade said...

I agree wholeheartedly! It took a lot for me to start blogging because of my size. I know a lot of people don't have a great love for fat chicks :p But I went ahead and did it anyway and it actually feels really good to shed the self-consciousness, even if just for a moment, and do something I enjoy.
Thanks for posting this! :)

uppitywoman said...

Beautifully said; thank you!

Kaz Karen Bj said...

You are the 'eyes' of the blog much of the time, rather than the focus.Your view is unique, and what we love to look at!!

The Black Opal said...

I could not agree more!! Blogs give us ladies such an inspiration and drive to be ourselves. I pretty much stopped reading fashion magazines and just read blogs now (vintage). I find each and every blogger beautiful in her own unique way. The self expression and dedication is contagious. Thank you so much for being here.
I dislike media and most of the modern fashion -- it has been run by the same small handful of people for the past twenty years. Same photographers, same designers... That's why the fashion and style of the mainstream has not changed much in this period of time.
So, we have to do it ourselves for ourselves and it is the best thing!

Natalie_vintage_girl said...

AMEN :)

Caroline said...

Yes Yes Yes x

Selina said...

What I find boring is the way that people just post their outfits with nothing else. So boring. This is what I wore today blahblahblah. Snooze. I need words, a personality, something more than that

pauline said...

I love what your saying, so true:-)

Helen Mae said...

I totally agree with you! I read a lot of blogs and I'd say mostly the attitude amongst bloggers seems to be "I know I'm not a supermodel but let's talk about clothes and also here is a picture of my cat". It's just a really great way of becoming part of a community.

Emma Powick said...

hear hear!

The Dainty Dolls House said...

I so dislike when people say those things, they never take the time to get to know the bloggers and why they blog either. Most of us are not self-obsessed (I have met a few, but it's rare) blogging for some is an outlet, a way to say 'this is me' a way to work through things and have fun!! I've 'met' so many people that I otherwise would have never gotten the chance to & I see into their worlds and what they go through and it makes me feel less alone in the world, that there really are others who like the same as me. I don't live in a spot that has a lot of people who wear vintage, so it's nice to come online and found thousands...even millions of them. And so many other likenesses, blogging helps us to see differences and move past them. It's not easy posing and taking pictures, I still feel silly sometimes doing it, but it's fun and the hell to what others may think!! xx

Hellcandy said...

I love this post & too right!
I've been blogging for 5 years & originally started out as a beauty blog because my colleagues at work would always ask me for recommendations till one eventually gave me a nudge & said I should start a blog.

I have now started to share my love of vintage too as I think it's so important to appreciate that modern day fashion will always take it's inspiration from bygone eras of glamour!

Hope you don't mind but here is my blog link if you'd like to take a little peek:

www.Hellcandy.com

Rosa Nguyen said...

I'm so glad those words didn't get to you. I remember in the early years people thought bloggers were attention seeking and in hopes of getting freebies from PR companies. I was really sensitive to that comment, and I glad to be over criticism like that.

Keep at it!!


www.rosa-dyn.com

Rosa Nguyen said...

I'm so glad those words didn't get to you. I remember in the early years people thought bloggers were attention seeking and in hopes of getting freebies from PR companies. I was really sensitive to that comment, and I glad to be over criticism like that.

Keep at it!!


www.rosa-dyn.com

Jessica Cangiano said...

Superbly said, I couldn't agree more. If one can't be free to be themselves fully on their vintae/fashion/beauty/lifestyle/etc blog, then really, it begs the question, why blog at all?

♥ Jessica

jana said...

I completely agree. I've had so many negative reactions and opinions on having a blog. For me, it's a motivation to try new things, think outside of the box, and be myself, while hopefully motivating others as well.

:)
Jana

Anna Nuttall said...

Hi stumbled upon this blog through bloglovin and I'm in love with this blog - it so pretty <3.
I hasn't had any negativity when posting selfie on my blog or on other social media network but I have found a few younger teenager have been getting some horrible comments and you think to yourself, how that affecting the person state of mind. Like you said, we're everyday women who enjoys blogging.

Alicebijou said...

I agree, I was having a conversation with someone too and their view was 'oh look, I got dressed today' ~ sarcasm - which made me feel really sad and also made me stop doing outfit posts of my own.
It's not about that, It's nice to share your style and ideas with people, I get inspired by others even though I have a very strong sense of personal style myself.
At the end of the day, it doesn't hurt anyone and it's fun!

Ruth said...

Thanks for this post! I just started my blog which is about my life as a new mom and I wanted that to include my vintage inspired mom fashion - because I think a lot of women are afraid of dressing up after they become moms- and I also find myself thinking if I'm "good enough" to blog about fashion. Exactly because I'm just an every day woman who wears what she likes.
I love your dresses and your pictures (I'm still learning how to take good pics myself, I'm new at this..) and I love your pretty blog!
Sincerely, Ruth from themominpearls.blogspot.com

little lyzi said...

<3

Carla Ortega said...

I agree with what you say, we felt much more identified with real people, and they give us the push to share our tendencies, life and tastes, personally I think it is not about being beautiful or not to pose and share photos of our styles , because we are not professional models, and even the models we seem boring to watch (no relation to reality), I must confess that through the blogging world I've seen the world, and I say landscapes, streets, cities not we could find in a magazine, that makes it more achievable and more exciting.

Hermania said...

Praise

Betty2Tone (Laura) said...

As long as they're not being rude or braggy about it, who cares if someone thinks they're pretty when maybe they aren't? Good for them!

SterlingFink said...

Yes! Before I started doing it myself I thought that girls who posted "selfies" on their blogs were vain. But then I read somewhere that selfies boost self esteem. They do! I may never *love* how I look but I feel a heck of a lot more confident now that I've started putting together cute outfits and snapping pictures of them for my blog. And I love to look at other bloggers' clever outfit combos and watch them gain confidence, as well. It makes me happy to see other people trying to be happy, too.

Jessie said...

Oh, the things people say in bitterness. I too love washed-soft dresses.

Lauren said...

Wonderfully well said! It's the diversity in the blogging world that makes it so special!

ali lovell said...

Thank you for this! Life is far too precious not to enjoy and share it with others!

ali lovell said...

Thank you for this! Life is far too precious not to enjoy and share it with others!

Trish Hunter said...

Yes yes yes yes yes!
More people need to spread this message! It's so valid, important and true. Hear hear!
xx

Paulette Hughes said...

So well said. I can admit to being ignorant before I entered the world of personal style blogging as well - about how "vain" those girls were. Now that I am one of those girls, it's not about vanity at all. It's about a sense of community and sharing our creative vision with one another. I personally get bored by the cookie-cutter model types, because not only am I not in that demographic myself, it's so much of the same look all the time. Too perfect. I love uniquely beautiful style blogs, like your own. I have now become the subject of sarcasm among some of my peers as well, but I feel good sharing this part of myself with the world, so I can brush it off. Thank you, Marianne, for sharing part of your world with us.

Authentic Alice said...

What a fantastic post. You have got me thinking really. I am a blogger and I keep it a secret from my friends and family because I am worried what they might think. I don't want them to go in search of my blog because I am embarrassed about talking about myself. Maybe I should consider telling all?

CHAIGYARU said...

Word.

Others can judge the way they like. We cannot control it. But we just can't take it to heart!

Akram Taghavi-Burris said...

I too just wanted to thank you for your words. Blogging is about sharing real life.

These same comments go beyond fashion and vintage bloggers. I teach graphic communication and my university students have to maintain a blog. Many of them have the attitude that, " I'm not vain enough" or "not a good enough designer" to blog.

But blogging is about sharing your experiences and getting feedback from a community of commenters. Blogging is about connecting and relationship building. It's not really about you, it's about what you can share.

That's exactly why I blog and one of the reasons I love your blog as well. Good job! Keep up the good work :)

Alexandra Marie said...

I LOVE this! You said it perfectly. I've heard people say similar things, and I couldn't agree with you more. Blogging is a community- we're here to support each other. Each one is unique and lovely in her own way, which is part of what makes it so wonderful! Alex

tobebeautifulingodseyes.blogspot.com

Leanne Winters said...

So true! People either get 'blogging' or they don't its one of those things but I am glad I have found it. It's my place to express and be who I am openly. <3

leanewinters.blogspot.co.uk

xx

Blaise said...

Thats cute :) i like this post. I use my first name and middle name cos at first i was shy shah

http://blaiseruby.blogspot.com

@blaisedyer (twitter & insta)

x

Emma Something said...

Wholeheartedly agree!! And my goodness that's a beautiful photo!

1940s Dame said...

Amen! Well said! I completely agree with you! I love your post! xx

1940s Dame said...

Amen! Well said! I do agree with you! I love your post! xx

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